Solitary Chastity?

I am often asked by men who have a fantasy for chastity, for advice on how to begin.
The advice is simple. Don't orgasm.

Or is it that simple? It sounds so easy, but in reality, it is incredibly hard to achieve.
It's like saying to a heavy, long-term smoker, here's a pack of cigarettes, but don't smoke, or saying to someone trying to diet, here's a chocolate muffin, don't eat it. 

Your cock is constantly with you. You can't take a break from it or remove yourself from it. It's there. And it's not just there, it's communicating with you constantly. It's telling you it is aroused, telling you it needs touching, telling you it needs attention, telling you it needs an orgasm. Sometimes it wont just be telling you, it will be pleading with hormones that course throughout your body.

And here is Mistress KeyHolder saying simply, don't orgasm.

I know it's incredibly demanding. I know it isn't possible for most men. They don't have the will power, the stamina, the self will, the determination to do it. This is why I say it is not for the feint hearted. 

Moreover, they do not have the purpose.

I could say it requires an incredibly strong man to cope with chastity, but rather, it requires an incredibly strong woman. Doing chastity for yourself maybe ok for a few days, or short term at least, but committing to a lifestyle of chastity is not really a solitary occupation.

Because of it's very nature, being so sexually, physically, emotionally demanding, it needs support and strength from a woman to see it through. There needs to be someone strong enough to say no when you are at your weakest, someone who sees the benefit for you in saying no. Someone who sees that declining to give you what you beg for and so desperately, at the time want, is in actual fact for your long term benefit.

And when the ache and the frustration becomes overbearing, knowing that someone who you care deeply for is getting intense enjoyment from your denial makes it just that bit more worth while and bearable. You have a reason to fight the feelings to give in. There is someone other than yourself who this is affecting. Someone else who's pleasure depends on your denial.

You wouldn't just be letting yourself down, but your love also.

So, for the single man who asks my advice, I say, in the first instance, try and go one day longer than you have gone before, and when you have done that, is there any particular reason why you can't do one day more? But, ultimately, there will come a time when there is just no reason to do any more. You will lack purpose.

The ideal situation is to find a keyholder to guide you. But finding someone like me who is genuine enough to do the job properly is as hard as it is for me to find a genuine man willing to commit long-term to this type of fetish.

Somewhere though, there is someone for me..

I wonder if it is you?