Orgasm Control Makes for a Better Man

I genuinely believe that orgasms are counter-productive for men. I don't just say that for the benefit of this blog, or for your entertainment, that is my firm belief. And most men would have to agree that, given chastity training, they become better men.


Better, in what way?
Imagine how a man pleases and pleasures his partner prior to his orgasm. Imagine how sensual and romantic and loving he is. And then imagine how quickly he loses all interest after he has had his orgasm. He is like a different man. He rolls over and goes to sleep..interest gone. How much better to deny him his orgasm after he has finished pleasuring you and notice the difference. Notice how he lays close to you and continues to gently caress you and maintain his focus on you until you fall asleep. 


Imagine the response you would get if you asked your man to do a household chore if he had been denied orgasm for even a few days, and the response you would get if he had had release. I'm sure, two completely different responses.


Imagine how much extra energy and zest he would have if he hadn't had an orgasm than if he had. Is this not why sports players are encouraged to refrain prior to a performance.


And so I could go on giving examples of how chastity helps make a better man. I am also a realist though, and I do appreciate that there are times and situations when chastity is not suitable. It can make concentration on other things difficult and there are (rare) times when this is not appropriate. However, chastity can be got used to, and ability to concentrate on other things and can be learnt over time, and while certain situations would require more careful management, there are really no exemptions.


There is no reason why a man should not be chastised and controlled by a strong woman. No reason at all. It only serves to improve the person you are.


Am I right.... 


Or am I right?

Continual Frustration

I don't really understand why anyone would want to subject themselves to it, all I know is that there has to be somebody, somewhere in the world who wants it. Considering all the richness and diversity that makes up our nature as individuals, there has to be someone, surely, who wants what I want to give.


There are moments, passing times of reprieve, but on the whole, long term chastity amounts to continual frustration. Even with infrequent release or milking, the feelings of frustration are so pent up that there is a reminder of them continually. With such long term build up, orgasm, when it happens, does little to relieve the feelings which have been building up over many weeks/months.


Initially, the arousal and frustration is felt directly - cock and balls ache, throb and demand attention for relief. But over time, the physical feelings of frustration spread..thighs, legs, torso, arms.. until it becomes an overwhelming feeling of desire and need. It is there continually, and eventually the feelings become so familiar you learn to live with them and in some way, be comforted by their presence, like a friend, they are always there. And so familiar they become, that if/when you are released from the cycle of chastity, there is a sense of loss with their leaving. A sensation of bereavement at the passing of such intense feelings, and being left with nothingness. Far better to be comforted with frustration, than to have nothing at all.


And as your physical body becomes overridden with frustration, so too does your mind..It becomes hard, an effort to think of other things, to concentrate, because you are so consumed with the physical effects of frustration. And at times, you find yourself moaning, whimpering audibly at the sheer helplessness of your situation. Laying on the bed, whimpering because it is all there is left to do.. You can do nothing more to help yourself than whimper at you inability to escape. Overtaken.


And now I have painted a picture for you of continual frustration, I want you to imagine a woman, who you find beautiful, who has the key to your chastity device around her neck. You are not there suffering alone. There is a strong, powerful woman, who you adore, who is your purpose in all of this. She is you raison d'etre. She is the one you crave, the one who you think of continually and who you are reminded of with each moment of frustration. She is the one who you whimper for.


She is the one, in your moments of weakness, when you would normally reach for the key and say, enough of this..she is the one who says, No. No my love.. You must carry on, because without your frustration, you have are are nothing. I will help you. I will be strong for you. I wont allow you the key when you are weak..
and she holds you tight, and kisses your head, and you rest your face against her skin. And you feel so very, very blessed to have such a person to guide you, and enjoy your suffering.


This is me...


This is my chastity...


This is what I dream of finding.


This is what I live, in my head, every day.

Cruel to be kind.

Someone once called me, "The Cruella de Ville of the chastity world".  It was meant in the kindest way and I took it as a compliment.


Men have, on occasion, commented that I must be cruel and sadistic to do what I do, however, I am not. Not in the slightest. I am kind and caring and loving. I don't see long term chastity training as a cruel thing. To me, it is the most wonderful gift I could ever give.
It involves me giving my complete attention and devotion to my sub's sexual care and in turn developing his mental state of submission. By sexual care, I don't mean the quick thrill of immediate relief. Chastity is far more intense and deep than an orgasm.
Through denial of orgasms, I would help him progress through the intense frustration of coping with incessant arousal/horniness, through the despair of lack of relief and onto a higher lever of frustrated sexual contentment. With this comes changes in how he would feel physically, emotionally and sexually. His mental state of dependance on another would allow his character as a submissive to be developed and the pleasure to be gained from this overwhelming lack of control as a submissive is an incredible gift.


To offer intense chastity training is a kindness - far, far from an act of cruelty.

Just a male chastity obsessed housewife...

I'm just a normal mum, who walks down the village and does the housework, but I have a passion that's on my mind pretty much constantly. It's been on my mind for over 23 years.

I dream of having a chastised man under my control. I dream of controlling his sexual pleasure and frustration, making him beg and plead and, over time, breaking his will.

Welcome to my world.